In your wedding dress, to have and to hold

April 18, 2012 · by smidge · in ,

Wedding Wednesday hosted over at Something Charming. You can read my other wedding posts under the Mr + Mrs Smidge tag.

So, the venues are booked, as is the photographer, the invitations are being designed, the cake taken out my hands (B is in charge, I’m scared) everything is going well.

So what’s next? Well, what normally would be the best part of any wedding planning for most brides, the dress shopping, is actually the one thing I am least looking forward too. Let’s just say I have already tried to order my wedding dress of the internet and no, it was not a great success.

It doesn’t help that reading the wedding blogs (I know, I must stop) scares the shit out of me. Whilst there are long drawn out success stories, like this one over on APW there are the tales of an Undercover visit over on Rock n Roll Bride, which on balance I find a pretty inappropriate post to be honest, despite you can be a bad customer as well in my opinion and many of the comments back me up on this. However it still made me petrified.

Now regular readers will know i’ve been a bride before (there is a photo hanging around somewhere). My first dress was £80 and yes it was a proper white ball gown style dress. It was however a sample. I was lucky; I walked into a shop, saw it, and bought it, left with it. I don’t remember going with a girlfriend, or making an appointment or even trying on more than one dress.

(Although looking back I don’t like it much anymore. Thank god I don’t need to keep those photos for ever more)

This Saturday, Hockeygirl and I (my chief, chief, chief bridesmaid) have made 2 appointments to try on dresses. This is my fear:

  • One appointment lasts an hour, the other 1.45 hours. Gulp. That long just to try on dresses? Really? I’m sure ill get bored after the first dress. Can you tell I am so not a girly girl? I have however, 2 bottles of champagne (Moet, The Widow) to help. I think ill need it.
  • I hate getting dressed in front of anyone at the best of times, especially in the gym, and now I have a stranger in a tight enclosed space? Flustered Smidge has arrived.
  • I really have no idea what kind of dress I’d like, but basically I am going to put my foot down, no satin, no bling, no poufyness, no Disney princess. If I come out of the shop with any of these, well feel free to shout at me.
  • I’ve no idea whether i’m going to be able to stick to my budget of as little as fricking possible for I love this Ian Stuart and Lyn Ashworth but they will both be way out of my price league I’m sure.
  • I will love a dress so much I will have resort to a 2nd hand dress to get it. Ugh. Worn once in the case of wedding dresses is not right.
  •  The staff will be rude, I won’t look good in any of the dresses, I’ll get sad and I’ll go back to randomly buying dresses off the internet again and B will be  disappointed when he sees me. Actually make that family will be sniffy when they see me – where’s the wedding dress?

Ohh I know I am moaning, the dress shopping is a right of passage for all brides and I am looking forward to a day with Hockeygirl, but I someone will just solve all the problems for me above, well that would help.

Miss S x