I am looking for someone to share in an adventure that I am arranging, and it’s very difficult to find anyone
My wedding dress (8 months before, I must be mad) is already secreted away in the mother-in-law-to-be’s wardrobe (to hide it from claws and B at ours). Without giving too much away (although I did send out a help email to many of you going – is this the one!!??!! Help!!!) the dress is cute, it is simple, it is, I think, elegant, maybe even a little sexy, there are no ruffles, no big skirts, no bling, and no satin and luckily, as it was a sample (whoop) no £2000+ price tag. The dress is, well, me in a wedding dress form.
(Although please don’t take that as a reference that I am cheap!)
B, like I expected, is being himself too, it is one of the reasons why I love him – his individuality. He’s wearing a kilt (yippee) but a very different kilt (to this anyway so not sexy imo); it will be, like his personality, a little bit quirky. However, like him with my dress, I won’t see the kilt until our wedding day as he wants to keep it secret – fair play, I am too.
The question is if neither of us is seeing what we will look like beforehand will we match? Will our outfits make us look like a couple or two individuals, with our differences out there for everyone to see? It has been said that the wedding is the symbol of how you want the marriage to be seen. So you match. Look how we match, look how perfect we are together…
(Lets just ignore the fact the bride’s mother often has a strong hand in the wedding, just like she will for the rest of the marriage, ahem)
I’m going to call bullshit. I am going to call out all those perfect weddings that hide the differences, that make it all about how you look as a couple. B has a personality too. He wont suddenly disappear once we get married and neither will I.
B and I have struggled over the years to reconcile our relationship; there is no shame in this. Give me a couple who hasn’t and I’ll call them liars. There is nothing wrong with being different people, that is what, after everything we have been through, the ups and downs, makes us the couple we are today, the couple we want to become. That is what our wedding will be a symbol of.
Even if we both turn up in front of our guests looking like we put our socks* on in the dark…we still look like a pair of cute hobbits.
Miss S x
* Yes, one black, one blue. Again